Techniques

Throwback Thursday: 10 Positive Parenting Tips

Children are continually learning and evolving, so being constant in your positive parenting techniques will help in shaping and dealing with your child’s behaviour. Here are 10 top tips on how to achieve harmony but also deal with those inevitable lows.

1. Talk and get to know your child

All children are different, so make time to find out what your child’s interests are and what angers him/her. Consider the tone and volume that you use, as this can make a big difference to how much your child listens and respects you.

2. Listen to your child

It’s important to listen to your child whether he/she is worried, angry or happy. If your child doesn’t feel you’re showing due consideration to their anxiety, he/she may act out, rebel or withdraw.

3. Engage in your child’s interests and introduce him/her to new ones

Whether playing, fishing, stamp collecting or engaging in sports, being active in your child’s life in a fun and stimulating way is important to their development.

4. Set boundaries and punish effectively

Children need to know where the boundaries lie before they can keep to them, so when they are testing how far they can go you need to be firm but fair. Ensure that you are constant, and when you punish them, and that you explain why they are being punished, so they will learn for the future. For a young child, placing him/her in the corner for a few minutes can be effective, while older children might be grounded. It’s a good idea to investigate why your child misbehaved before punishing him/her though.

5. Notice and praise good behaviour

Just as important as setting boundaries is rewarding your child when he/she is well behaved.

6. Praise your child’s achievements

Ask your child about their performance and achievements in school, sports, clubs and hobbies, and show your recognition, as this will make them happy and motivated to continue achieving.

7. Build self confidence

As your child grows up they will need to get used to making new friends and dealing with difficult situations. Show your child your love, and try to support your child without getting too involved so that they become more independent. Avoid comparing him/her to your other children as this can reduce confidence further.

8. Understand changes and let them learn from their own mistakes

Your child will inevitably change over time and make mistakes, and there will be difficult times, so do your best to understand and accept these moments. Don’t be afraid to let your child deal with his/her own consequences, as only in this way will they learn from their mistakes.

9. Deal with mistakes and downfalls positively

Your child will probably be as upset as you are, so for the sake of your sanity, your relationship with your child, and you child’s behaviour, try not to be pessimistic in the bad times. It will get better.

10. Look after your health and be optimistic

Your child will react to your behaviour and your attitude towards them, so in order to retain your positive parenting techniques, ensure you are happy with yourself, in good health, and able to set a good example for your child.

July 9, 2015

Exercises For Better Sex

Who knew that the secret to better sex was all in your personal workout? Whether it’s uncomfortable, boring, or just sub-par, there are a number of exercises women can participate-in which will have them feeling better in no-time.

Make sure to give your muscles a good stretch before embarking on any of these workout techniques, since this will avoid any pain the next day.

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Squats

Well this shouldn’t come as any surprise! Squats are known to be a quick and effective leg and butt workout, but they can also really enhance your sex life. How? Just a few squats a day will help circulation, especially to the genitalia – sorry for the TMI! Keep your squats slow and low, since this strengthens your leg muscles, and makes it easier to avoid cramps.

Pushups

If you only have time for one exercise, then this should definitely be at the top of your list. Pushups are great for both men and women since they keep your arms, legs, core muscles toned. Perfect if you need a little more endurance, switch to hand-and-toe pushups which are a little more difficult.

Lunges

This one is quite self-explanatory, right? Lunges are a fantastic exercise since they can make you super-flexible in no-time! One of the best techniques is the side-lunge, which essentially means just shifting your body weight from one leg to the other.

Hinge

The hinge technique is great if your back is feeling a little bit tight, and you’ve got no time to get a full body massage. All you need to do it kneel on the floor and extend your back forwards and backwards for 3 seconds at a time. This will also have you feeling far more flexible in no-time!

Pelvic tilts

Women from any age can benefit from the pelvic tilt, which strengthens the pelvic muscles, but it is also effective for women who suffer from terrible lower-back pain. Lie flat on the floor with your arms at your sides, then hold in your abdominal muscles then release.

You should feel a slight sensation in your glutes, thighs, and abdominals if you’re doing the exercise correctly.

Image via Experience Physio

October 16, 2014

How To Say No (Without The Guilt)

Sometimes saying ‘no’ can often make one feel guilty about their decision, but there is a respectful way to get your point across. This is a common scenario that we have all experienced, where at times being nice to others is at the expense of ourselves. The right way to say ‘no’ is easier said than done, but explaining your situation, being truthful about your intentions and properly communicating with people can make the situation more smoother to deal with.

Be respectful

There is a correct way to say ‘no’ although it comes down to respecting the other person and their decision. It’s probably best not to cancel plans or say no at the last minute, after you’ve already made a decision because you’ve got cold feet. This behaviour is not only unreliable but isn’t in good taste either.

Don’t feel guilty

There’s only one worse thing than saying no, and that is saying yes without wanting to take part in what the other person has proposed. The best option is to be honest, and respectfully make your point be heard. Be firm about your decision, and don’t sit on the fence with your point of view. If you’re dealing with someone face to face, make sure you are firm with the tone of your voice and maintain eye contact.

Requires an explanation?

There is a debate whether saying no to someone or in a certain situation even requires an explanation. This is all based on context, and what exactly the situation requires of you. If the scenario is about lending money, be truthful and explain how this isn’t a financially viable option for you at the moment. Avoid white lies since they could catch up with you in the future.

Think it through

Take a moment and think through if this particular decision is right for you. It doesn’t hurt to think it over, and prepare what you’re going to say ahead of time. Sometimes keeping it short and sweet is the best way say no. Rambling and long explanations will feel like you are trying to convince yourself, rather than the other person.

Image via transformleaders.tv

By Felicia Sapountzis

May 2, 2014