An FBI behavioral analysis expert gives his tips on how to win people over.
Because just lying in bed stressing about how you can’t sleep is the worst thing you can do.
Getting glowing, sun-kissed skin just got a lot simpler.
Children are continually learning and evolving, so being constant in your positive parenting techniques will help in shaping and dealing with your child’s behaviour. Here are 10 top tips on how to achieve harmony but also deal with those inevitable lows.
1. Talk and get to know your child
All children are different, so make time to find out what your child’s interests are and what angers him/her. Consider the tone and volume that you use, as this can make a big difference to how much your child listens and respects you.
2. Listen to your child
It’s important to listen to your child whether he/she is worried, angry or happy. If your child doesn’t feel you’re showing due consideration to their anxiety, he/she may act out, rebel or withdraw.
3. Engage in your child’s interests and introduce him/her to new ones
Whether playing, fishing, stamp collecting or engaging in sports, being active in your child’s life in a fun and stimulating way is important to their development.
4. Set boundaries and punish effectively
Children need to know where the boundaries lie before they can keep to them, so when they are testing how far they can go you need to be firm but fair. Ensure that you are constant, and when you punish them, and that you explain why they are being punished, so they will learn for the future. For a young child, placing him/her in the corner for a few minutes can be effective, while older children might be grounded. It’s a good idea to investigate why your child misbehaved before punishing him/her though.
5. Notice and praise good behaviour
Just as important as setting boundaries is rewarding your child when he/she is well behaved.
6. Praise your child’s achievements
Ask your child about their performance and achievements in school, sports, clubs and hobbies, and show your recognition, as this will make them happy and motivated to continue achieving.
7. Build self confidence
As your child grows up they will need to get used to making new friends and dealing with difficult situations. Show your child your love, and try to support your child without getting too involved so that they become more independent. Avoid comparing him/her to your other children as this can reduce confidence further.
8. Understand changes and let them learn from their own mistakes
Your child will inevitably change over time and make mistakes, and there will be difficult times, so do your best to understand and accept these moments. Don’t be afraid to let your child deal with his/her own consequences, as only in this way will they learn from their mistakes.
9. Deal with mistakes and downfalls positively
Your child will probably be as upset as you are, so for the sake of your sanity, your relationship with your child, and you child’s behaviour, try not to be pessimistic in the bad times. It will get better.
10. Look after your health and be optimistic
Your child will react to your behaviour and your attitude towards them, so in order to retain your positive parenting techniques, ensure you are happy with yourself, in good health, and able to set a good example for your child.
We all know that feeling in the morning when the alarm goes off and it seems like the hardest thing in the world to get up. After our morning coffee/tea/juice, we usually feel better. However, if that feeling of being tired and exhausted becomes constant and it seems as though nothing can make you feel better, it’s time to make some lifestyle changes.
The most obvious reason why you’re always tired is of course, lack of sleep. Research shows that people who get at least seven hours of sleep every night are much better at concentrating and are less moody than people who sleep say, six hours. So if you’ve been getting less than seven hours of sleep at night, this is the first and most important change that needs to happen: Go to bed earlier.
The second most likely reason why you’re tired is because you’re dehydrated. If you drink less than two litres of water per day, your blood will thicken and your heart will have to work harder. This results in fatigue, so make sure you keep on top of your water intake.
The third factor when it comes to tiredness is exercise. As absurd as it sounds, moving – even though it requires energy – will give you more energy in return. It’s for this reason that we feel so amazing after a workout, while sitting all day makes you feel exhausted even though you haven’t moved a finger.
If you are sleeping enough, drinking enough water, and exercising regularly but still can’t shake the fatigue, talk to your GP. A blood test might reveal a thyroid problem or an iron deficiency – both can easily be treated through medication and dietary changes.
Do you need an energy boost right now? Take a quick power nap! Just 30 minutes can help you restore your energy levels. Alternatively, get up from your chair and walk around the block making sure you take deep breaths in order to optimise oxygen levels in your blood.
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Whether you’ve over-plucked them over countless years, or simply weren’t born with full, bushy brows, then there’s definitely something you can do about it.
Rather than rocking the au naturale look, fake the appearance of stronger, more defined brows by using some of these miraculous tips and makeup tricks.
Use a pomade
Rather than using an eyebrow pencil which can often leave harsh lines on your skin, a pomade actually mimics the style of a natural brow. Use in conjunction with an angled brush, then dip the tip into the pomade and apply in small strokes.
For the illusion of thicker brows, take some of the product off of the brush with a tissue and carefully use the remainder on the beginning of the brow. Brush them out regularly for a natural look which matches the colour of your own brows.
If you do have a few hairs which tend to stray, lock them in place with a clear gel. The formula shouldn’t feel too drying on your brows, but still keep them in place for hours on end. Apply onto the tip of your brows for extra holding power, then allow to dry naturally.
If you’ve ever applied a liquid eyeliner before, then this should be a piece of cake. A marker is usually a felt-tip which carefully draws on precise hairs onto the bald patches of your brows. Once you’ve made a mark, leave it to set for 30 seconds then continue with the next hair. Eyebrow markers are typically long-lasting and don’t rub off in water.
You might moisturise your entire face, but don’t forget your brows! The skin can often become dry and flakey (especially in the warmer weather), and needs hydration as well. Use a fragrance-free moisturiser through your brows and pat over dry patches before going to bed. Your makeup will also glide on much easier with extended use.
It might feel a little too good to be true, but there are actually serums which help the growth of your brows. The best place to apply the serum is over your bald patches twice a day, before you notice any big changes. Be careful where you apply these products – they can also make your hair grow in unwanted places!
Increase your intake of Biotin
There is no denying that biotin aids the growth of healthy hair and nails, so focus on food and supplements which will keep them looking strong and healthy. Biotin is most popularly found in eggs, carrots, almonds, berries, and swiss chard.
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Here’s why you should grow herbs in your kitchen: 1. You can easily add amazing flavours to your recipes. 2. It’s cheaper than repeatedly buying bunches of herbs at the supermarket. 3. Herbs in pretty pots are so decorative and will make your kitchen look great!
But before you go on a wild shopping spree and come back with tons of different herbs only to be disappointed that they’re all dead after a week, read through the following tips on how to take care of your kitchen herbs:
Location: Like most plants, herbs such as basil, thyme, mint, and parsley need lots of light and fresh air. The best place to put your pots would therefore be a windowsill, preferably facing south. Make sure that they don’t overheat, though. They should not be in direct sunlight for long, especially during the hot summer months.
Watering: Overwatering is probably the most common mistake when it comes to herbs. Yes, they need a lot of water, but herbs don’t tolerate soggy soil. So rather than soaking the plant twice a week, give it just a small amount of water every day and don’t get the leaves wet as this may lead to fungus.
Harvest: Don’t be overly cautious to actually use your herbs. In order to grow, the need to be pinched regularly. Instead of cutting entire bunches or stems, just take single leaves from every part of the plant to encourage regrowth.
As you can see, it’s quite easy to keep your kitchen herbs fresh and growing. There’s only one more thing to do: Enjoy them in your meals!
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We engage with the work of designers in almost everything we do. I’m writing this from my desk with a coffee cup to my right, my favourite hand bag to my left, and my computer screen in front of me – all branded and designed for the user. As you read this there will be design all around you too – an ad on the screen, the texture of the seat you’re sitting on, the look and feel of the shoes you’re wearing.
Our engagement with the work of designers is often unconscious, but if done well the message gets through. So if design is fundamentally about creativity and communication, there are lessons to be learnt for all of us. Here’s five to get you started:
Be curious and engaged
To communicate effectively requires understanding. Become a keen observer of current events and trends – be curious and dive deeper into the issues so you can provide your own unique perspective.
Understand your creative process
While it’s nice to think that a “big idea” will just come to you one day, the reality is that behind every “eureka” moment is a lot of hard work. Discover how you learn and create best – maybe you need to mull over an idea for a few days until it’s sharpened, or you might draw out ideas through brainstorming with others. Whatever your creative process is; understand it, own it, and don’t be afraid to take hold and run with new ideas when they come to you.
Think beyond the people you know
Talking to new people, asking questions, being interested and curious about what they have to say, are all part of the recipe for successful communication. Try starting a conversation with someone you haven’t spoken to before, they may offer you a new perspective that leads you to a new idea. Understanding the way different people tick will help you reach new and existing audiences.
Be confident and open to new ideas
Everyone has unique skills to offer, you might not be a designer but what is it that you have to offer that is different to those around you? Don’t be afraid to own the skills you have and the work that you create. However, embracing critique is important too –we are always learning.
Collaboration leads to innovation
The flip side of having unique skills to offer are the things you can’t do so well. Recognise what these are and reach out to those who will compliment your skills. Collaborating with others will help push ideas further, leading to better results.
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By Dr Nicki Wragg, program director of design at Swinburne Online and senior lecturer of the design honours program at Swinburne University. She graduated in 1989 and worked in the areas of brand identity and publication design. Nicki completed her doctorate in 2012.
Let’s just set the record straight – it’s not only men who suffer from the terrible side effects of razor burn!
Sometimes even shaving your legs with a fresh blade and layers of shaving gel isn’t enough to keep the itchiness and sensitivity away. Follow just a few of our tips to get flawless legs in no-time!
DIY shaving lotion
Don’t use the same old-shaving gel packed with countless chemicals and fragrances which are probably breaking out your skin in the first place. Make your own with just a few handy ingredients straight from the pantry.
Mix together equal amounts of rubbing alcohol, witch hazel (or any other toner), 8 aspirin tablets and crush until they form a fine paste. Apply this to your skin after shaving to prevent any future rashes or razor burn.
After shaving your legs, it’s important to wash-off the product with lukewarm water. We don’t want the water to be boiling hot since it could only irritate your skin as well as your pores. Pat your legs dry with a towel, then immediately apply a thick, hydrating moisturiser to your legs.
Pay attention to problem areas such as ankles, behind your knees, and your knee caps since they require some extra care. This will prevent any future rashes from popping up all over your skin.
Sometimes using a razor which is old or blunt can lead to endless skin conditions such as razor burn. Every time you finish using it, rinse well with soap and warm water to remove any hairs or shaving gel which can build-up, and clog the blade. Pat dry with a towel and store in a cool, dry place away from direct sunlight or running water.
Over-exposed pores can usually be a nightmare to deal with, especially since they can bleed when interacting with a razor. If you suffer from these bumps, it’s important to use an oil-free shaving lotion which won’t harm your skin.
Shave carefully in large strides, and don’t unnecessarily go over the area more than once. When your legs have dried, apply a sheer butter over the area and relax – this will soothe your legs and will eliminate any bumps on your pores.
Do you exfoliate before or after shaving? The best time to give your skin a little TLC is before going in and shaving your legs. Run a shower or warm bath and soak for 10-15 minutes. Now is the best time to exfoliate your entire body with a formula which isn’t too drying – but still leaves skin looking and feeling flawless. Wash-off the product, then use a mild shower gel before shaving.
Did you know that deodorant helps to eliminate any side effects of razor burn? Dab just a bit of the thick formula on your bumps and razor burns to instantly soothe irritable skin (but only use a stick-deodorant!) Aerosol cans should not be used on exposed or cracked skin since they can make the area feel 10x worse.
Do you have any tips for treating or avoiding razor burn?
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Ok ladies, lets face it, not everyone is built like a supermodel. I mean seriously, how many of them do you actually see? Six foot plus, gorgeous and legs like a giraffe. More likely, you’ll see plenty of women like me, who shop in the plus-size section. Knowing what to avoid can save you a lot of time, money and heartache.
Just because designers have come up with something new, doesn’t always mean it’s going to be the best style for you. For example; swing tops. They stormed the shops and filled up most of the valuable space in plus sized isles and stores. Strangely, designers decided that plus sized women should wear tops that flared out at the hip! Sure, they looked great on women who needed to add emphasis there, but for those of us with nice, solid, child bearing hips, they were quite a poor style. They may have been long, super comfy and covered your butt, but they really accentuated the wrong area.
The stripes myth
A lot of plus size women are advised to stay away from stripes. That’s not necessarily true. They are an excellent way to draw attention to areas. So, if you are wearing tight fitting bottoms and want some attention brought to your top, having something with stripes will do that. Generally though, staying away from stripes head to toe is a good idea. If you do wear them, do it sparingly.
Short shorts and tops
Short tops are a no no if you have a bit of a tummy. When you team them up with tight fitting bottoms, they won’t do much for you. Having a bit of extra length will make you look taller, hide a muffin top and stretch you out a bit. Short shorts are much the same. Unless you have really good thighs, not many women can pull off wearing short shorts.
The Cinderella method
The Cinderella method is about getting it just right. When you apply that to clothing, it’s basically avoiding the wrong size. For example, when you are bigger, it can be very tempting to want to hide underneath really sloppy or baggy clothing. Muumuu dresses or ultra baggy tops can be very comfy at home, but limit their use there. They actually make women look much larger than they actually are. There is no shape to them and they draw attention to every inch of your body.
Alternately, if you have tight clothing from top to toe, it is going to look like you are spilling out of them. Some women get very hung up about going up a size, but if you need to, you will look better for it.
Best avoidance tip
A great way to decide if you should avoid a particular style, print, pattern or colour; jump online and checkout plus sized models wearing these clothes. Pick a lady with a figure similar to yours and see how they are photographing her in different types of clothing. As an example, models wearing swing tops are often photographed with their arms by their sides or tilted slightly to the side, rather than front on. This is done to hide how these tops accentuate the hips.
By Kim Chartres
If you’re looking to save some cash on your next fabulous hair-do, why not colour your hair at home. It has to be said that colouring your own hair takes a lot of practice and persistence, but don’t let this stop you from giving it a try. Even flawless hair can come from an inexpensive box, just follow our top tips before you re-touch or completely colour your hair at home.
Suffer from broken hair, split ends and heavily damaged locks? Colouring your hair at this point may not be an option since it could damage your roots and ends even more. Wait until your hair is healthy again, or snip off the ends before colouring. Peroxide could thin out and damage hair, so be careful and keep your hair healthy by treating it to an intense hair masque every few weeks.
If this is your first DIY hair colouring experience, choose a temporary colour instead. These dyes only last for a few weeks (or washes), and if you’ve made a mistake along the way, you won’t be required to live with it for months on end. This is a great starting point to build your technique and practice before going for the real thing.
There may be a chemical in the dye you may be allergic to which is rare, but a strand test is highly recommended. If you’re using a new colour for the first time, do a strand test on a piece of inconspicuous hair to test how it will look like once developed.
It is best to use dye on hair which has been unwashed for 2-3 days. This is because oils are released onto the ends and all over the scalp, which help to hold the colour better and absorb it over time. It is best not to colour hair which has been freshly washed, since the colour may not set very well into the follicle.
Colouring kits aren’t usually equipped with brushes, but you can find these products in convenience stores or supermarkets. Sometimes gloves make it difficult to distribute hair dye evenly across the length and roots, but using a brush will get those hard to reach places with ease.
Long and thick hair
You may find that thick or longer hair requires two boxes of dye instead of one. Only you can determine if you’ll need more than one box, but it’s better to be safe than sorry! Buy a box just as a back-up if it is the first time colouring your hair at home. It will save you another trip to the supermarket or chemist if the formula isn’t enough.
Start with colouring the roots, then move down to the length of your hair. Section off your hair, and start from the front of your head then make your way to the neck. Don’t forget above the ears! Place another mirror at the back so you can see which sections of your hair need to be coloured.
This time may vary from each hair colour you use, but most require 25-45 minutes for the colour to actually work. Section off your hair with clips or even use a shower cap to keep it all together in one confined space. Don’t start to worry if your hair is turning an odd colour, it usually does not represent what your true colour will look like. Simply wash hair with lukewarm water until the water runs clear, then use the conditioner supplied. It will leave your hair feeling silky smooth and shiny.
- While waiting for the dye to develop, any itchiness or irritability on the scalp is usually due to the peroxide. If this pain increases and feels unbearable, wash off the dye completely. There are many dyes which are peroxide and ammonia free if you are allergic.
- If you spot some dye on your face, neck or hands, simply apply some moisturiser and wash off with soap and warm water. This will remove any stains on the skin.
- Use older clothes and towels since the dye could potentially stain your clothes.
- For very long hair, don’t be afraid to bring along a friend who can help you out. An extra set of hands will be much appreciated since colouring your own hair can be stressful and tedious.
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By Felicia Sapountzis
Living with sensitive skin can often mean sticking to same old skincare routine in fear that something could break you out, and effectively start World War III right on the surface of your skin. Take greater care when choosing products that don’t strip oil off the skin, since this is a major source of skin breakage and irritation. Below are some products which work wonders on sensitive skin, and don’t cause any bad breakouts.
1. Kosmea Organic Rose Hip Oil 20mL, $21.99
Rose Hip Oil is a skincare saviour for anyone who suffers from sensitive skin, acne or scarring. This product is packed with essential fatty acids which include omega-3 and contribute to healthy skin all year round. They act as a super-moisturiser which repairs skin cells while you sleep, and helps to effectively decrease the appearance of wrinkles, acne scarring and also stretch marks.
2. Aesop Camellia Nut Facial Hydrating Cream 60mL, $49.00
Australian skincare brand, Aesop is revolutionising the way traditional products look and feel when they interact with the skin. They specialise in a number of hydrating creams which lock in moisture without feeling weighed-down. The cream also includes chamomile oil which softens the skin and avoids any irritation around the forehead or cheeks.
3. Aloe Calming Facial Cleanser for Sensitive Skin 200mL, $20.95
Aloe Vera is known for it’s healing properties, and is the perfect ingredient to look out for when investing in skincare products. The soap-free formula gently cleanses the skin, while the aloe vera helps to keep any irritation at bay.
4. La Roche Posay Effaclar Duo 40mL, $27.99
Effaclar Duo is an incredible product for anyone suffering from sensitive skin as well as mild acne. The formula is specifically made to decrease the amount of breakouts you accumulate, and avoid any nasty blackheads from popping up over the skin. Keratolytic acid which is found within the formula helps to reduce the amount of breakouts in just three days, and dramatically changes the look of skin if used on a regular basis. Even if you don’t suffer from acne, the formula is gentle enough to use every morning, and even works as a primer before applying makeup.
5. Puretopia Refresh & Balance Facial Mist & Toner, $14.95
Recommended for all skin types, this mist toner is also packed with soothing aloe vera and vitamin C which brightens skin tone and complexion. Use as a toner to minimise the look of pores, or lightly mist throughout the day to nourish dry skin.
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By Felicia Sapountzis
The harsh winter weather can wreak havoc on the delicate skin for both your face and body. Commit to a daily winter routine which will moisturise skin and have it feeling brand new. No need to spend a fortune on new products which could cause unrealistic expectations, just grab a few inexpensive products from the supermarket or drug store, and get started.
Keep in the habit of regularly exfoliating your face and body through the next few months. Dead skin cells will now more than ever build up on the forehead, knees, elbows and shins. Using a gentle clay mask on the face is the best way to remove any build up, and keep your skin looking firm and soft. For the body, try a coffee scrub which can quickly remove dead skin in minutes.
Make sure to moisturise your entire body before you go to bed. This will help to keep skin soft and less likely to break or damage easily over time. Vaseline Intensive Care Spray Moisturiser ($7.99) is perfect since it dries in seconds, and deeply moisturises without leaving a greasy residue on your clothes or sheets the next morning.
Cracked lips are painful, unpleasant and difficult to deal with during the colder months. Regularly exfoliate your lips by using a dry toothbrush and rubbing it along your top and bottom lips. Apply a lip balm which will soothe and nourish your lips, and re-apply throughout the day. A great option is the Carmex Mint Lip Balm Tube SPF 15 ($4.99). The added SPF will protect your lips against the sun, and keep them hydrated.
Don’t forget to apply products with sunscreen even though the sun might not be shining. Instead of using a sunscreen which could leave an unpleasant sheen or shade of white on your face, look for a foundation with an added SPF. These products are easy to apply, inexpensive and don’t leave you with a shiny face all day long.
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By Felicia Sapountzis
Surely it’s happened to all of us at one point in our lives; a little too much champagne can lead to a debilitating and sickly hangover. While sometimes it’s best to sleep it off, there are ways to help you feel better, and fast! Make sure you consider our tips next time you plan on having a big night out.
A fairly obvious choice, but the body does get extremely dehydrated from all the alcohol. Keep a water bottle handy throughout the day to keep hydrated, and to avoid feeling sick. Sports drinks also double up as good choice to replenish electrolytes, however they are filled with sugar that won’t help your body in the longterm.
If you’re feeling a little under the weather, some gentle exercise could help nurse you back to good health. Going for a short walk is a great way to take in some fresh air, but don’t forget to bring sunglasses!
Have a bath
Hop into a warm bath if you start to feel nauseous, since the temperature will help to ease any of these symptoms. Completely submerge yourself in the water, play some music to relax, and even add some bubble bath or oils to make it extra luxurious.
Eat food high in protein
Don’t choose a meal that is high in fat or carbohydrates thinking that it will soak up all the alcohol. Consuming alcohol breaks down amino acids in the body, so eating food high in protein such as eggs is the best option since it helps the body get back to normal. Mushrooms, spinach and peanut butter are also high in protein and will work just as well.
Since alcohol is a diuretic it’s effects are catastrophic on the body which include losing vitamins and nutrients just by having a drink or two. Try taking vitamin supplements the next day, focusing on Vitamins B and C. Take with some food such as crackers or dry toast to avoid feeling sick.
Take it easy
Sometimes it’s best not to get back on your feet after you’re feeling ill. Rest until you feel better, and let the hangover run it’s course. Don’t physically exert yourself as this could bring on nausea, but lounge around at home with a good book or kick back with a movie on the couch.
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By Felicia Sapountzis
We all have them every once in a while, but is there any way to kick bad eating habits without going cold turkey? Eating late at night is unhealthy since the body has to work twice as hard to digest food as we sleep, but also contributes to poor sleep or even sleep apnea. Adhering to a night-time routine is the best way to stop snacking on junk food, and will lead you to greater overall health.
Have a goal
Think about the type of body you would ideally like to have, and work backwards from there. Keeping a certain item of clothing will help set into your mind that the end is in sight, and snacking on unhealthy food won’t help the situation in the future. Focus on longterm goals, rather than craving something fatty in the meantime.
Keep a food diary
A food diary is a great way to see how much food you are eating on a daily or weekly basis. Keep a short journal of what you have eaten for each meal, including snacks and be sure to review this every week. This will help to prevent unhealthy snacking or missing meals altogether. Helpful for those who constantly skip meals or don’t have a solid eating plan.
No eating after 7pm
Planning on snacking or having dinner consistently after 7pm? Think again. Try to have dinner earlier so the body can digest food with ease. Drinks such as water and tea are great for helping the body to digest food throughout the evening, and could deter any cravings for sweets at night.
Brush your teeth
This tip may not work for everyone, but brushing your teeth earlier in the evening will help to prevent snacking on food later on. You will be less likely to part with the ‘clean mouth’ feeling, and could try green or chamomile tea as a nightly routine instead to relax and prepare yourself for bedtime.
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By Felicia Sapountzis
Festival season is well and truly upon us, and with that, comes many great challenges. Which festival to attend, and how to coordinate the ultimate clash-free timetable? What to wear? And how to style your hair?
In order to make your life that little bit easier, SheSaid spoke with Blow Dry Bar hairstylist Luke McCaul about creating perfect, festival-worthy hair. Here are three easy step-by-step celebrity-inspired hairstyles:
For each look, start by prepping your hair using a volumising shampoo and smoothing conditioner, comb through and blast dry. For best results, Luke recommends the I Want Body Volume Shampoo and Smooth Me Now Anti-Frizz Conditioner from Eleven Australia, combing through with Eleven’s Miracle Hair Treatment.
1. After drying off your hair, brush through and smooth out. Part your hair where desired and section into two halves front and back – create these sections by taking the hair from each ear and meeting at the top centre of your head.
2. From here, take the front half section, and section again into four equal parts. Repeat to the back section until you have eight large sections all together.
3. Take your curling wand, tongs or flat iron and curl each individual section away from the face. If you are using a curling wand or tongs, point them down towards the ground, wrap the hair from the middle to the ends and hold for 20 seconds.
4. By just using your fingers, comb through the curls you’ve created to achieve that soft, boho wave. Hairspray to finish.
Note: By using Dry Shampoo at the roots and Sea Salt Spray over the ends, scrunch your curls for more of a rock chic look.
Messy Top Knot
1. Spray Sea Salt Spray through the ends of your hair, this will help to give your hair that added texture for a festival-worthy messy bun.
2. Flip your hair upside down and gather into a high ponytail at the crown of your head.
3. Using a generous amount, hairspray your entire ponytail by holding it up toward the ceiling.
4. Section your ponytail into three frontward facing sections and tease and hairspray each individual section. The more you tease, the larger your bun – so go crazy!
5. Now that you have a crazy messy textured ponytail, simply wrap your hair around into a bun shape you’re happy with and pin into place – be sure to camouflage your hairband.
Ultimate Bun Tip: If you find when you put your hair up into a bun that you have unwanted flyaways – take a clean blush brush, spray with hairspray and smooth over your hair. You’ll be amazed at how well this workd! Always avoid using a comb, as this simply makes it worse by pulling more hair out of your ponytail.
Halo Braid Boho Updo
1. Take a large horseshoe section from just above your temples to the back of the head and section this off (you’ll be coming back to this section later).
2. With the remaining bottom half of your hair, separate into two even sections and bring forward over the shoulders. Simply plait these two sections forward and secure with a hair elastic.
3. Going back to your top horseshoe section, hairspray and lightly tease this section to your desired height. Loosely plait the end and secure with a hair elastic. Wrapping the plait up and under, into the teased section, secure with bobby pins to create your updo bump.
4. To create your halo braid, take the two plaited sections and wrap up and over your head like a headband (or halo) and bobby pin into place. It doesn’t matter if your hair isn’t long enough to completely reach the other side – as long as you ensure to hide the elastics, the two plaits from either side will meet in the middle to create your halo.
5. Pull and loosen any pieces of the plaits and any loose strands of hair to soften the look and give it that boho festival look. Finish with hairspray.
Extra Festival Hairstyle Tips:
1. Shampoo your hair twice to ensure that it is extra cleansed and festival ready!
2. Be generous with the amount of product you use on your festival do – remember you’re going to be outdoors and exposed to all the elements all-day and all-night long so you want it to last.
3. Remember with your festival hairstyles, you aren’t looking for perfection – if there is a curl that just isn’t sitting right, don’t stress, embrace the messy, boho look.
4. Dry Shampoo is your best friend – it stops any unwanted oils or sweat ruining your look.
5. If you want to add some colour fun to your hairstyle, why not try hair chalk? Added colour that simply washes out the next day.
But, if hair isn’t really your thing and all that seems just a little too confusing for you, don’t stress. If you’re heading to Future Music Festival on 8th March in Sydney or on 9th March in Melbourne, there will be a complimentary pampering hair and makeup lounge being held by Blow Dry Bar and Gorgeous Cosmetics for all VIP ticket holders.
It’s pretty much a ritual now when you go out for dinner, meet up with friends for a coffee or simply just cook a delicious-looking meal at home – don’t even think about eating, out comes the smartphone. You rearrange the plates and cutlery, try multiple angles and add various filters all in the name of getting that perfect shot for Instagram before you’ve even had one bite. We’ve all been guilty at one point!
There is definitely an art to photographing your food – hey, even Martha Stewart has received flack for her terrible Twitter food photos recently – so SheSaid caught up with cookbook author and food styling pro Kate Gibbs to get her insider tips to capturing that perfect shot – and give all your friends and followers on Instagram ultimate #foodenvy, just in time for Christmas lunch.
1. Tell a story
Tell a story with the photos you’re taking. It’s all about those little details that make a difference – a twirl of noodles around your fork or a beautiful drizzle of chocolate across the plate. Think about where the photo was taken. Who made the meal? Who are you with? Try to come up with creative ways to incorporate the story, whether it is through the subtlety of a logo or a friend’s hand taking a slice of pizza: capture these moments to evoke a story in your photo.
Tip: If you’re struggling with busy background elements, find someone sitting near you with a nice coloured or patterned top and use it as the background instead.
2. Colour and lighting
Did you know that Instagram photos with predominately red and yellow tones actually receive less likes than images with cooler blue and white tones? In the post editing stage, Kate recommends focusing on lowering the saturation and temperature of your image to bring out those blue tones, then adjust the contrast until you find a balance you’re happy with.
Tip: Try and keep your shots clean and simple. White is always a winner – be it a white plate, tablecloth or serviette – lots of white space is appealing to the eye.
If you get stuck with a coloured plate, such as red or yellow, you’ll often find that these colours don’t shoot too well, especially if you’re shooting food with vibrant colours to begin with. Kate suggests moving the food to another plate or opting for a black and white edit instead.
Tip: Natural lighting is best when shooting food, but avoid direct sunlight, or you’ll risk casting a shadow across your shot.
3. Angles, focus, size and scale
Play around with multiple angles, sizes and scales until you find a shot you are really happy with. Try zooming right back from an aerial perspective to capture everything on the table, or zooming right in on the plate focusing on one simple element of your dish – it’s all about experimenting until you find what works for each different dish. Aerial shots work well for ‘flat’ items such as pizza or soup, but most often a 30-45 degree angle works best.
Find the ‘hero element’ of your dish and make this the focus of your picture. Remember you can always crop, edit and zoom in later, so always start by taking pictures from further away.
Tip: Rectangular plates are difficult to shoot; Kate suggests taking your picture from a corner angle or aerial perspective. Or, if the meal has interesting layered elements, like a burger or sandwich, you could also get creative and try shooting from a side-on perspective.
Remember less is more. Don’t overwhelm your photos with too many elements or too many objects around – it soon becomes distracting and the food is no longer the focus. Be sure to choose props that work together size-wise. It’s important to make sure one prop doesn’t overpower the photo, so keep it simple.
Tip: De-prop. Once you have styled your shot, take a photo and then remove one prop or part of the dish and reshoot it again – you’ll be surprised at how well this stylistic trick actually works!
5. Kate’s ultimate tip – incorporate what you’re passionate about
Kate says, “Photographs drawn from inspiration are more likely to inspire your followers and potential followers, so go ahead and shoot what you’re passionate about, what you love. You’ll soon discover common threads in your feed, be it in shots of healthy food, or places you’ve been exploring in your local area. I follow people who inspire me, or whose photography I love, be it a fashion blogger in New York or a women on a farm in regional Victoria who is growing her own fruit and vegetables.
“Develop your own photography style, whether that’s lots of busy close-ups, or a cleaner look with lots of white space. It’s worth using similar filters, or none at all, to develop a bit of consistency in your feed. Potential followers will scour your entire feed, and it will look so much better if it looks like it was developed by one person, you!”
For some creative motivation, follow Kate’s incredible Instagram photos at instagram.com/kategibbs. Some of Kate’s favourite Instagrammers to follow are:
Kate Gibb’s favourite photo editing app:
Kate’s favourite photo editing app is Snapseed. Kate isn’t a fan of the standard Instagram filters, because everyone’s photos tend to look the same – Kate says you can always tell who has used ‘Lo-Fi’ or ‘Valencia’ and the point is to make your pictures stand out! There are so many different editing apps out there, try them out until you find one that you like the look of and that you are comfortable using.
So now you’ve learnt how to take food photos like a pro, it’s time to get snap happy! Try out Kate’s food styling tips and tag your photos #shesaid so we can check out your food porn and follow you on Instagram. And don’t forget to follow us at instagram.com/shesaid_editor.
Could your love life could use a little spicing up? We found these three bits of wisdom from sex therapist Laura Berman, PhD and director of the Berman Center in Chicago. Dr. Berman has shared her secrets for sizzling sex in her book The Passion Prescription. These sex tips should raise the temperature of your sex life!
Love your body
It’s hard to enjoy sex when you have negative feelings about your body. According to Dr. Berman, “Typically, when a woman looks at herself, her eyes go straight to her problem areas. She carries that feeling into the bedroom, and when her partner’s kissing her thighs, she’s busy thinking, ‘God, I’m so fat!’”
To counteract this poor self-image, the doctor’s sex advice suggests that you look at yourself naked in the mirror at least once a week, focusing on your favourite body parts. Touch those parts and say aloud what you like most about them. Cultivate a positive self-image and soon you’ll be eager to toss off your clothes and jump into bed!
Don’t be afraid to try something new and exciting
Being in a long relationship can be cozy and comfortable, but sometimes you can get into a rut and start feeling like the sex isn’t as hot as it used to be. Dr. Berman suggests reliving the wilder, early days of your love affair by trying something new and daring, like scuba diving or a helicopter ride, to get the blood and heart pumping. “Experiencing something new and exhilarating together helps replicate that feeling you had in the beginning of your relationship when you couldn’t get enough of each other.”
Speak up about what turns you on
According to Dr. Berman, “Men want to be your knight in shining armour when it comes to sex – they’re eager for you to tell them what feels good. The problem is, so many women are out of touch with their bodies they have no idea what to say.” Hopefully, you’ve gotten in touch with your own body by trying the self-image booster above and are ready to show your partner what you really like!
Dr. Berman suggests putting your hand on top of his and guiding him to the ways you want to be touched. Want oral sex or have a favourite sex toy? Speak up! “This is the only way he’s going to know what works for you.”
What’s your favourite piece of sex advice?
With spring in the air (and in your step) now is the time to add some warmth and colour to your wardrobe.
This season is all about bright colours, edgy graphics, and lots of accessories (think arm party and layering!). Here are our tips on how you can add some pizzazz to your outfit.
Colour pop your outfit
Don’t wait until summer to bring out the bright colours, get into the fun a little early. Bringing a pop of colour to your outfit can be a little daunting, but rest assured, it’s not as hard as you think. Team a black and white outfit with a pop of yellow and you will suddenly bring your outfit to life. Try a pair of bright shoes, a handbag or some other bright accessories to add some colour.
And, if you’re a little more daring, take it up a notch with a bright coloured piece of clothing like a hot pink statement skirt.
The folded clutch
Perfect for daywear or a night on the town, accompany any outfit with a folded clutch for sleek spring style. If you’re not typically a fan on the clutch, many come with an accompanying strap so you can conveniently transform it into an over-the-shoulder bag. Don’t be fooled by their deceiving size, most clutches are very functional and can fit all of your everyday necessities. Have some fun with fabrics too; try a leather, suede or faux fur clutch for something a little different.
Light, flowing scarves
Get rid of those chunky knitted scarves that kept you warm all through winter, it’s time to bring out the light colourful ones for Spring! Scarves are the perfect budget-friendly accessory to add something more to your look. Jazz it up with bold animal prints, or relax your look and choose something light in a pastel colour.
Don’t forget the hat
Hats aren’t the easiest accessory to pull off, so luckily there are plenty of options! Choose a straw hat, rather than a woollen or knitted hat for a breezier, more summery look. Don’t be afraid to add a hat to your daywear (they shouldn’t just be saved for the beach!). Try a fedora if you’re feeling a little hip, or a floppy hat if you’re more of a boho chick.
Make a statement with a bold embellishment
Don’t be scared to bling-it-up! Whether it’s with subtle statements or extreme detailing, after hibernating in winter, Spring is the time to shine. Eye-catching embellishments can be as simple as selecting an item with a beaded collar or 3D lace…but remember, the key to pulling off this look is moderation. Be confident, and rock this bold look.
These fashion tips are courtesy of a range of retailers at Uni Hill Factory Outlets in Melbourne. For more information visit www.uhfo.com.au or like us on Facebook or follow Uni Hill on Twitter and Instagram @UniHillFO.
What’s your favourite spring accessory?