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I once said the thing no parent should say; “My child would never act like this”. 

April 17, 2017

Tips For Coping With The Terrible Twos

You’ve just experienced a miraculous transformation. Your sweet little baby has all of a sudden turned into a raging monster who screams, kicks and knocks down everything within reach. Welcome to the terrible twos. If you’re wondering how to cope, here are some tips that will help.

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It’s not your fault!

We, mums, often tend to look for faults within ourselves where there is none. When my first child started chucking daily tantrums, I analysed every situation to see what I could have done differently, I tried numerous different approaches and nothing worked. As much as I wanted to help him (and myself), not everything was within my power. Our children are learning and experiencing more that they know how to express and it’s a gap that they need to figure out how to close. While dealing with it on a daily basis can be frustrating, the terrible twos are a normal stage of your child’s development. There’s no reason to add guilt to your challenges.

Have a routine

Routine makes a toddler’s world more predictable and safe. When your child knows what needs to happen and when, it gives him one less thing to try to figure out and to argue about. It also makes it easier for you to know when your little one is hungry, tired or wants to play.

Take time out for yourself

Even when you have full understanding of what your child is going through, it can be tough to stay calm when your patience is tested day after day. It’s important to step away and spend some time by yourself regularly, then you’ll find much deeper appreciation for your time with your child.

Watch out for the good stuff

The terrible twos are not all terrible. It’s also a magical time when children laugh for no reason, say funny words, do strange things and see us, parents, as their heroes. When you’re starting to lose patience, remember that smile your child gave you when she woke up in the morning or the picture she drew of you (even if it didn’t look like you and it didn’t even look like a human). It’s the good things that fill your heart will love and give you the energy to keep on going.

There’s a saying about parenting that “the days go slow, but the years go fast” and this is certainly true about the terrible twos. It may seem now that you’ll never reach the other side, but you will and you’ll look back at the terrible twos with fondness.

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March 22, 2015

How To Wean Your Baby Off The Pacifier

There is no right or wrong way to phase out the pacifier from your baby’s life. It has acted as a source of comfort for months or even years, but only you can decide when it’s time to cut the cord. Here are some tips which could make the transition a little easier to deal with – for parents and baby.

Cold turkey

They’ll cry, beg and complain for hours on end, but some parents suggest that this method is the best way to go. Instead, spend an extra amount of time bonding with your child and even distracting them with various games and activities you could play together. The more they become fixated on the pacifier, the worse the withdrawal will become.

Bedtime

If your child has become dependant on the pacifier for both day and night, a good way to transition is to only use it for bedtime. By the time your child is 2-3 years of age, talk to them in a clear and concise manner, and help them understand that it can only be used at nighttime. Make it part of their bedtime routine, and they will slowly transition and will avoid asking for it when they don’t really need it.

Give it away

If your child is old enough, explain to them the concept of giving it away for other babies that might need it more. A fun little way my niece gave up her beloved pacifier, was by leaving it under the Christmas tree in exchange for her presents that year. There were certainly a few times she asked for it again, but only because she needed comfort and used it when she was upset. Giving the pacifier up to the ‘Tooth Fairy’ or ‘Santa Claus’ will help children to deal with the idea that they are no longer a baby, but rather growing up and entering a new stage in their life. It is also a far less traumatic way of phasing out the pacifier, instead of going cold turkey which can be frightening for a young child.

Read books

There are a variety of children’s books where the storyline is all about growing up and moving on from the pacifier. These books are easy for children to understand, and demonstrate the type of behaviour which is expected of a big girl, or a big boy as they grow older. Some effective books include:

The Binky Ba-ba Fairy by Heather Knickerbocker-Silva

Little Bunny’s Pacifier Plan by Maribeth Boelts

I Want My Pacifier by Tony Ross

Do you have any tips on how to phase out the pacifier?

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By Felicia Sapountzis

May 22, 2014

5 Tips For Easy Potty Training

Of all the issues parents face, one of the most challenging is potty training. No matter how many articles you read or how many other moms you talk to, each child handles potty training differently and brings a new set of headaches. It can take six weeks—or it can take six months.

No matter how long it takes to toilet train your child, there will be times when you feel like your toddler will be the only kid in high school still wearing diapers! Don’t despair, because your child really will get potty trained eventually. Here are a few toilet training tips to make it less painful for both of you.

1. Don’t push too early

Some parents turn toilet training into a competition, with bragging rights going to the mom who gets her child out of diapers at the earliest age. Refuse to enter this race, because you can’t win. Your child will get toilet trained when s/he is ready, and pushing for potty use too early is likely to incite rebellion.

2. Start small

Don’t expect a two-year-old to climb up on the toilet right away. Start out with a kid-size potty that sits low to the ground and put it where the child spends most of his/her time. Gradually move the potty closer and closer to the bathroom, then work up to a seat on top of the toilet.

3. Bribes work

Some mums have managed to get their offspring to use the potty by offering rewards, like lollies or money—one for pee, two for poop, three if they wipe. Little boys can get extra credit for aiming at the potty rather than the wall. While this ploy is likely to offer immediate rewards, it can also set you up to have an older (and more devious) child demanded rewards for doing homework or eating vegetables.

4. So does praise. Lots of it

Toileting isn’t easy for your kid, either. When he or she succeeds in using the potty, bring on the praise. Act as thrilled as if the child won an Olympic gold medal or the lottery. Clap your hands and cheer. Give the toddler your undivided attention and reward this accomplishment with hugs and kisses.

5. If at first you don’t succeed…

Try putting the child on the potty every 10 minutes until something happens. Sooner or later, your child will have to go. Then go to 15, then 20. With time, your toddler will develop a predictable rhythm. Soon, your potty training days will be over!

What are your best potty training tips?

 

August 4, 2013