It is incredible how much we value other people’s opinion of us. If we were all really honest, we would admit that we do worry about what other people think and a lot of us spend a great deal of time trying to please other people. In fact, some of us spend too much time on this. We want our parents to be proud of us, we want our siblings to feel that they can rely on us and we want our bosses to believe in us. None of these feelings have to come at a push if we have great and healthy self-love.
People will trust that because we love ourselves and have a fantastic attitude to life, they will feel safe to do the same. We live in a time where unrealistic standards have been set by us – for ourselves. Superwoman is the person we are asking ourselves to be – no one else. People who are positive about themselves – even their mistakes (and let’s face it, we all make them) are usually the happiest. They are not worried about pleasing people, because by pleasing themselves and being happy, they are naturally making others happy anyway.
It is very difficult to stop that inner voice telling us negative things, but it is possible. The greatest way towards a good and healthy attitude is to lose the self-pity. The trick is to start to treat yourself as if you are a unique and confidant goddess. It seems that at the end of the day it is all about self-respect and it is the one attribute we cannot compromise on. So much time is spent on the negative. You will find that if you can turn your attitude around, you will turn your life around and you will be the happiest person in the room. Isn’t that what we all want?