It’s cold outside, baby! And, if you’re constantly in trackie dacks on the couch, and would much rather cuddle the cat than swing naked from the chandeliers with your significant other; it might be high time you sexed-up your lovelife this winter. After all, it’s easy to get complacent in the colder months when you’re all rugged up, and your white bits have turned albino from lack of sunlight.
Don’t fret – help is at hand, thanks to leading Australian sexologist Dr Nikki Goldstein. Here, Dr G talks us through her top 5 ways to heat up your sex life this winter:
Water sports: Get in the shower! If you’re a time-poor couple, a hot shower together will save time, get you both clean and then hopefully in the mood for some hot lovin! “One of the biggest complaints I hear from couples is that they don’t have time to have sex,” Dr Goldstein says. “This is the perfect chance to create intimacy through caressing – you don’t even necessarily have to have sex. It’s still pleasurable together and fingers can achieve so much.”
Some like it hot: Your local supermarket aisle can be a treasure trove for heating up your love-life, erm, literally! Case in point, the Durex Embrace Pleasure Gels (pictured): two sensual pleasure gels, one which has a cooling sensation and another which heats up with touch. “When rubbed together, these gels are supposed to heighten your arousal and sensation,” Dr Goldstein says. “It’s a fun way to spice up your sex life.”
Durex Embrace Pleasure Gels, $19.99, is at supermarkets, pharmacies and independent grocers.
Bedtime stories: Love a good, seductive bedroom romp? It might be prudent to indulge in some erotica with your partner (or alone, to get you in the mood) before you try porn, says Dr Goldstein. “A lot of women feel feminine and safe reading erotica rather than porn. Women picture the story in their heads, so we become more comfy with erotica because we are in control over what the characters look like.” And if you’re looking for idea on what to read, check out shesaid.com’s erotica special with author Krissy Kneen.
I like to watch: When it comes to porn, it’s important to experiment to find out what you like, says Dr Goldstein. “What is it that turns you on?” she says. “Often women are scared to talk to their partners about what they like, but it’s important that both parties remember porn is about fantasy, not reality.” Like watching S&M? Tell him all about it – chances are, he’ll appreciate your boldness and honesty.
Break out a sweat: Exercise, whether together or alone, is a fantastic way to boost your body image, well-being and self-esteem in winter – oh and to get your loins racing. What’s more, if you opt to do it together, it can be a great way to be intimate, but not sexual together, says Dr Goldstein. “Exercise boosts endorphins and makes you feel more energetic, sexy and happy. What’s more, being fit also helps you in the bedroom when it comes to stamina and blood flow to the body.”
So, there you have it – go get ’em, tiger!
By Nicole Carrington-Sima